mum's advice

had a wonderful 'mum and daughter' time tonight where me and mum sitting together for a tea after cleaning up the dishes for dinner.

we talked about living as a married person. i was whining and skeptical of becoming a happily married woman someday when all i heard and experienced all these while was only heartbreaking and disappointing.

for every couple i met, there must be only 1 side who gives more, while the other one tend to not to appreciate it..

for every couple i met, there must be one who always hurt badly to maintain the relationship, while the other one just could not care less.

for some couples where either one who is so damn kind, only to get betrayed at the end of the day.

some have a partner who treated them as only one of the options, and not exceptions.

some were so good together, but that is because both of them have affairs somewhere else unknown to each other.

some real true love just cannot be together because of statuses or distances or religious or whatever heck you can think of that makes differences between two people.

and for those who give more and was always hurt, they can get tired, and eventually marriage or any relationship turns sour.

and some of the couple i met who totally head over heels for each other, suddenly broke up i don't know and cannot explain why they did.

and so mum was listening to me and all my points of 'no points being in love and get married whatsoever'. she might think i read too much love stories and hear too much bad things. to me they are real, which makes me sad. and what is worst, i somehow was going through some of it.

was. haha

and then mum said,

"well, opposite attracts and if they can handle each other well, the relationship can go on for a long time. the kind must learn to be firm, the hurt one should talk over and solve together. don't be such a rush to end things. people makes mistakes, and if mistakes can be pointed out and become fair to the both of them, then for sure marriage would be a bliss. i agree what you said either one sacrifice more but from time to time, small reward even like a smile from the one they love can cure every wounds and heal every hardship they did"

hahahaha! i agree with what mum said.. no wonder she make such a good counselor at school.

and what i need now is someone as a prove to what she said is right lol =P